Lately I’ve been trying to not SNATCH Lyn’s soul but LORD -them teenage tendencies are starting to arise & she’s only 8!!
Isn’t it too early for this?! Like she’s not even double digits yet!
I mean she’s already giving the shoulder shrug idc the world hates me type of attitude now. Not the cutesy pout I didn’t get the toy I want attitude I can deal with.
She’s giving me the sass I’m pretty sure I have my mom when I turned 15/16 going through my emo Avril Levine & Paramore stage. (Stop judging you liked them too sis! )
I thought I had more time like WTH?! But I must say even though my natural reaction when she start her attitude and talking back is too snatch her up and ask who the hell she talkin’ too. - I take a deep breath, let her express herself and then talk to her
-even though my natural reaction when she start her attitude and talking back is too snatch her up and ask who the hell she talkin’ too.
That’s MAJOR growth and step to unlearning generational bad habits that I grew up with in my home and seen in many others- I’m sure y’all can relate.
Growing up kids “stayed in a kids place”. Spoke when they were spoken to and not really given a chance to express their feelings and learn how to properly discuss and heal from hurt or calm down.
We were basically taught to bottle it up where now many of us have some real baggage and emotional trauma that we bring into our adult relationships- and that’s UNHEALTHY.
One thing Rene has taught me is how to effectively communicate and be the calm, listening parent (I still got some work to do) -
These are the things I do to break the generational unhealthy communication trend when puberty hits
Don’t give into your initial angry reaction
Take a deep breath and walk away
Give them their space
Reflect on how your parents responded to you and how it made you feel at the time
Laugh about it (trust me on this one)
Approach when you are calm
TALK don’t yell about it
Now don’t get me wrong I’m still a WORK IN PROGRESS ! God is not done with me yet lol. Even if I have a bad moment and flip out the first thing I do is apologize and talk about it with her.
Everyday in my life as a parent is a learning experience and a chance to do better. Don't you agree?